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Are You The One Holding Yourself Back? | Life

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I’m too busy.”

“I can’t focus on that right now.” 

These are just a few of the excuses I have made when it comes to my blog and other things outside of school and work.

Eventually, it got to a point where I had to stop myself and ask, “am I the one holding myself back from what I want to accomplish?” Deep down I knew what the answer was, I just had to accept that I in fact was the one holding myself back and not lack of time and being busy.

A few weeks ago I finished the book The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown (she is now on my list of favorite authors). Her book takes you through 10 guideposts, that she has thoroughly researched, and connects them to living a wholehearted life. I decided to read one each day. While reading through Guidepost #2: Cultivating Self-Compassion, I stopped on a term that I have never heard of before:

Life-paralysis:

refers to all of the opportunities we miss because we’re too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect. It’s also all the dreams that we don’t follow because of our deep fear of failing, making mistakes, and disappointing others. 

-Brené Brown

When I was reading this part of the chapter I felt like it had been placed in there just for me. Truth is, I knew that I had more than enough time to focus on building my blog and other things that I enjoy doing. My job isn’t demanding and my schoolwork is only demanding at certain times. When I looked back, I realized that all those naps I was taking and the time I was spending hanging out I could’ve used to work on my blog.

This chapter of the book made me open my eyes to what was really keeping me from blogging, my fear of failing. Whenever I blog I feel vulnerable because I’m creating content for everyone to see and not just myself. Because I’m creating content that is on the internet, I want everything to be perfect. I’ve always had this fear of failing and making mistakes, but what’s life without failure and mistakes?

Mistakes are inevitable.

Even though no one enjoys the feeling of embarrassment, life will continue to put you in uncomfortable situations because that’s how you grow. Your comfort zone might be nice and cozy, but for growth, you will have to leave that zone. I realized that my comfort zone was keeping my content to myself. No one is going to see it, so no one can judge. I felt comfortable knowing that no one could see my grammatical errors (still working my grammar) or know my opinions, but it wasn’t getting me anywhere. Eventually, I decided that in order for my blog to grow and for me to grow as a person I’m going to have to put myself out there.

This goes for everyone. Don’t let the feeling of not doing/being good enough in what you do stop you. Take that next step in whatever you’re trying to achieve, even if you look crazy doing it.

Before I let you go, I want you to take some time out to answer this question:

Are you holding yourself back from that one thing that you want to do? Why?

Until next time!

By love veronica

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4 comments

  • Shivonne

    April 8, 2017 at 11:51 AM

    Awesome post! I have to be honest, I am holding myself back… Mainly because of my fear of failing and because I am afraid to reveal too much of myself and that I might offend others when I reveal too much of myself… I know it makes no sense lolz but I am trying to work on it each day hey. Awesome blog:)

    1. love veronica

      April 9, 2017 at 1:59 PM

      No, you definitely make sense! It can be scary especially when putting yourself out there on the internet, but there’s that old cliche saying “you never know until you try”. Just remember that your opinions and work aren’t going to please everyone. Thank you for reading, love!

  • Tasha

    April 8, 2017 at 12:48 PM

    This was a great read. It’s inspiring to see young women recognizing there potential and the internal obstacles that can hinder them. Have you read “Maybe It’s You” by Lauren Handel Zander? If not, check it out. I’m sure you’ll like it.

    1. love veronica

      April 9, 2017 at 2:00 PM

      I will definitely check that book out. Thank you for reading!

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