Post Grad Diaries: Dealing With The Post Grad Blues
It’s been over three months since I’ve graduated college and let me tell you something, it’s been a little rough. The post grad blues is no joke especially when nothing is lining up.
I call it the “blues” instead of “depression” because I feel like it’s not depression, but something that can lead to it (I’m not a psychologist, don’t quote me lol). It’s something that I haven’t really seen discussed a lot amongst graduates, but feel that it should be because, let’s face it, life after college gets real.
Once you graduate you’re placed in a pool of millions of other recent graduates scrambling to get a job and figuring out their next move. I’ve been applying to jobs since my second to last semester, have been on multiple interviews, and still nothing. After a while I started getting discouraged. I thought I was going to get out of college with a degree and a well paying job in my field.
Although I didn’t think the post-grad blues would ever hit me, it did. Was placed in front of me like a brick wall, actually. It was this constant doubt and fear from not knowing the next step I was supposed to take. It was frequently wondering if I would ever be good enough for that job I want or if my next application was finally going to be my last.
At first, it was difficult because I’ve never really been a go with the flow type person. I’ve always felt that I had a purpose in life and that I need to use everyday to work towards it, whatever it may be. I tried to remain optimistic, but I’d be lying if I said that doubt and fear don’t cloud my thoughts at times.
After what felt like an eternity of being stuck, I decided that I couldn’t let myself sulk any longer. I decided to do things like revamp my resume, practice interview skills, work on grad school applications, and focus on personal projects.
These last few months consisted of a lot of self-reflection on how far I’ve come and what I need to be doing to get to where I want to be in life. As much as I wish there was a sign that read in big bold letters what my next move was I knew that that wasn’t reality. Just because I’m not where I want to be at the moment doesn’t mean I’m failing at life. This is something I had to realize to keep myself going.
If you’re dealing with the post grad blues or feeling down about your current situation, remember:
- There is no “right” way, age, or time when it comes down to it.
- Don’t give up in those moments of discouragement.
- This stage of your life is temporary.
- There’s tons of support all around you, but you won’t know unless you speak up.
- There’s no linear path to success.
- Never forget how far you’ve come.
This is only the beginning. One day I’m going to look back and remember this part of my life and realize how crazy I was to think that where I am now was it, and you will too.
Keep hustling, love, because the best is yet to come.